Interpersonal Relations in Family

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Interpersonal Relations among Family Members

Types of Interpersonal Behavior

Type 1 •Invites respect and compliance when you manage, direct, advice, teach and lead
Type2 •Invites acceptance and trust when you help, support, sympathize and empathize
Type 3 •Invites help and tenderness when you agree and act in friendly manner
Type 4 •Invites advice and help when you seek help, trust, admire and respect
Type 5 •Invites arrogance and superiority when you act shyly, modestly, dutifully, sensitively and obediently
Type 6 •Invites punishment and rejection when you rebel, protest, be undisciplined, be skeptical
Type 7 •Invites hostility and resistance when you attack, punish and be unkind
Type 8 •Invites distrust and inferiority when you exploit, show-off, reject and boast

First four behavior patterns will support healthy interpersonal relationships.

Pre-requisites for Better Interpersonal Relations

• Respectful mutual communication
• Win-win relationships
• Improving balance in others' emotional bank account
• Non-exploitative mutual transactions
• No ulterior motives
• Mutual trust
• Cooperation and support
• Genuine praise to each other
• Be of benefit to each other
• Take genuine interest in each other

Improve Your Score on Emotional Bank Balance for Better Interpersonal Relations

• Interpersonal relations flourish when you open an emotional bank account with the other person and make emotional deposits into it. Your emotional deposits build up the trust level with the other person and then, he likes to maintain relationship with you.
• More the emotional deposits made by you with the other person, more safe will he feel with you. It is a measure of trust and therefore, safeness into a relationship.
• You can build up your emotional bank balance with the other person by developing understanding with him, showing courtesy and care, attending to his small and big needs, keeping up the promises made, maintaining personal integrity etc.
• Once your reserve or balance is high, even if you make a withdrawal by doing the acts opposite to what have been described in the earlier point, the other person will not mind it that much and will be willing to continue the relationship in the same smooth manner.
• With high deposits and balance, your communication, even if it is less than perfect, is very well understood by the other person in the right spirit. Thus, interpersonal communication becomes simpler and easier.
• You can easily withdraw from your emotional bank deposit when you show disrespect, behave discourteously, play superior etc. As this balance depletes, the trust level goes down and the quality of interpersonal relationship decreases.